You'll find somoene someday...

I have a pet peeve I'd like to share:

 I get so annoyed when people say that I'll find a man someday. Sometimes it's accompanied with compliments to make me feel better, or people adding in a comment about Gods timing. But the gist is always the same. And it almost infuriates me. The first thing that comes to mind when I hear that is God hasn't promised me anything about having any sort of man in my life but himself. So, really your words of encouragement and your guess and your assumption based on statistics which are, yes, in my favor of finding someone someday, are merely that. Guesses. There's a chance I may never marry as well. It's all about God's plan which I have no insight into right now.

But, I think part of the anger is a whiplash reaction to people commenting on and acknowledging that they have figured out my biggest fear. It's not like I try to hide it, but it is uncomfortable to acknowledge it. ESPECIALLY when I wasn't intentionally bringing it up. It's normal for me to get angry when people show that they have insight into me without me out rightly telling them something. Weaknesses are something we guard and try to hide because someone can hurt us if they know what they are.

Also, it annoys me when someone shrugs that statement off. It's almost an irritated answer. Just because a majority of women struggle with this fear doesn't mean slapping some generic band aid comment on it will make it better.

The bottom line is that God is in charge of my life. Maybe he'll give me a spouse and maybe he won't. Either way he's got my best interest in mind and no matter which way I go it'll be the best life God could give me. UGH. Don't tell me I'll fin a man!